"Sadness" is a kind of emotion that makes people feel uncomfortable both physically and psychologically. When facing the sorrow of their companions, I always feel heartbroken and often don't know how to do it to help him most effective...
"Sadness" is a kind of emotion that makes people feel uncomfortable both physically and psychologically. When facing the sorrow of their companions, I always feel heartbroken and often don't know how to do it to help him most effectively.
American marriage counselor Erin Leyba believes that intentional support for her in the face of her tragic situation can strengthen the connection between them. Erin · Leba also proposed 4 practical practices that can effectively provide assistance when facing a companion who is in tragedy:
{999 Write a comfort card to himYou can write a card to him, tell your beautiful memories in the card, and express your concern and support for him, which will be a great encouragement to your companion.
American writer Keely Chace believes that the biggest purpose of the card is to "express your care" and to provide as much help as possible, so we need to convey this to the other party clearly, such as: "I know I can't let your pain go away, but I want you to know that I'm here, let you rely on and complain."
Also, be aware that you should avoid mentioning "I know how you feel" and "you should ⋯─” Because everyone’s experience and treatment of grief are different.
2. Give him some relaxation timeGive your companion some personal time to relax. If you can, it is recommended that he spend a few hours walking in nature, spend an afternoon in the water center, or take a nap.
The research team led by neuroscientist Mary Helen Immordino-Yang pointed out that when your brain has time to rest and in a static state, you can refocus on your mind and organize your mood, which is beneficial to your emotional health.
3. Sending him flowersFlowers and green plants can help reduce stress, allow us to find inner peace, reduce anxiety, anxiety and depression, and increase satisfaction in life. In addition, spending can also help us get proper sleep, strengthen creativity, improve production, improve endurance to pain, and improve our spirits.
Loretta G. Breuning, a famous professor at the University of California who has studied brain chemistry for many years, pointed out that admiring flowers can touch happy brain chemistry substances, such as dopamine, oxygenin, serotonin, etc., enhances our positive emotions.
4. Giving him a hugIn addition to embracing, it can also increase the frequency of the actuator. Sometimes the body contact is more comforting than words.
Dacher Keltner, a professor of psychology at the University of California, pointed out that "exposure communication" can convey 12 different emotions, including gratitude, compassion and love. Giving the other party a warm hug can make the other party feel warm and loved, helping him regain his happiness.
Don't be afraid of grief
Clinical psychologist Lisa Firestone believes that when we over-control our negative emotions, we will gradually lose love, passion and warmth, and thus live a more depressed life. Therefore, it is better to accompany him and overcome the tragedy than to tell the other party to "don't cry".
Emotion is the most real reaction, providing us with the message "How are you doing" to help us adjust ourselves and strive for a better life. As Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, the author of "The Little Prince", said: "Sorrow is one of the evidence of life." (Sorrow is one of the vibrations that prove the fact of living.), you will feel sadness, and then continue to live, and you will feel a more real and balanced self.
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